It’s important to have an appreciation for your family and your past, and the lessons they have taught you – whether those lessons are positive or negative – for those lessons help you determine how you create your future, and live your present.
Family. The word conjures up feelings in all of us. For many of us it’s a warm, fuzzy feeling of love. For many others it might be a not so warm, less fuzzy feeling of confusion, perhaps guilt and for some it evokes stronger negative feelings.
There are few things in the world that can affect you and shape you as much as family can.
Our belief systems about love, money, work and the world are all formed at an early stage in our life, and therefore those we are closest to at that stage in our life have a major influence on those beliefs. We carry those beliefs with us as we progress through life, and they continue to impact our life and the decisions we make on a daily basis.
I’m currently in Scotland visiting my family, most of whom I haven’t seen for 3 years. There are a few more wrinkles and grey hairs on everyone, and maybe a few more kilos on some (sorry brothers!), but fundamentally they are all the same people I left when I moved to Australia 16 years ago.
I am the youngest of 5 children, and each of us having our own children (and even grandchildren now) means when we get together it’s a bit like a Scottish Clan gathering. The most heart-warming part is watching my son Struan with his aunts, uncles and cousins. He fits like a glove. Without even questioning it, he hugs, kisses and plays with everyone, as though he sees them every day. There is a trust and familiarity with family that is wonderful to witness.
It’s extremely important to me that Struan knows his family. Even although he doesn’t really know them intimately, I believe they form a large part of his identity and he needs to understand that element of who he is, and who he will become.
Like any family, mine are by no means perfect. We’ve all had our troubles, but we also know that when the proverbial hits the fan, we have a strong foundation of love and support to fall back on.
As well as having the comfort blanket of support, I am grateful to my family for instilling strong values of hard work, entrepreneurism and fairness, and for giving me the opportunity to discover and walk my own path. All of these values have helped me get to where I am today, and will continue to shape my future.
I’m proud of where I have come from, and happy to be back in the place where it all began, even just for a short time. It’s important to have an appreciation for your family and your past, and the lessons they have taught you – whether those lessons are positive or negative – for those lessons help you determine how you create your future, and live your present.
While it’s good to live in the moment and think of the future, it’s also important to acknowledge the past. What are you grateful for in your past, that has helped shape who you have become today? Today as I have lunch with my family I will raise a glass to them, and also to yours.
PS If you’d like to hear my topped-up Scottish accent in person then I’d love you to join me in Sydney or Brisbane in May for my signature workshop “Get What You Want At Work”. Click here to get your ticket (selling fast).