BigFIshIt’s been a couple of weeks since my last blog – for good reason. In the last 4 weeks I have got a house ready to go to market, sold the house, had a major operation and relocated to Sydney. Phew, I’m glad that’s all over with!

Lots of people have asked me why I’m going back to Sydney (I lived there for 9 years and I’ve been away for over 7 years). Especially given there seems to be a fair proportion of the population of Sydney moving to Queensland to escape the crazy house prices.

I tell people the decision boiled down to 3 key reasons – what I’m calling the 3 B’s: Best friends, Business and Beach.

After the life-changing event of being diagnosed with breast cancer last year, I realised the people who are the closest thing that I have to family in Australia were mostly based in Sydney. And when you go through a life-changing event, you need family around you.

I have an extensive network in Sydney and was travelling there for work, more frequently than I wanted – taking me away from my own family.

And the beach – ah how I missed the beach! I didn’t realise how much until I stood on my new local Sydney beach for the first time last weekend and cried with happiness at being back.

Those are key reasons, but the important lesson for me in all of this was that I can basically talk myself into anything.  I talked myself into believing Brisbane would be great for my business, because I could be a bigger fish in a smaller pond.

I have loved Brisbane – and particularly enjoyed doing business there (and will continue to do so thanks to the amazing clients I have). And there is so much about living in a smaller city I will miss. I found Brisbane a very easy place to live.

But in the process of deciding to move back to Sydney I realised I had not been honest with myself. I actually want to be a big fish, in a BIG pond.  I love my work – to the point that when someone told me a few days ago that I should get some hobbies, I replied “I do – my work”. And I want to be the absolute best in my field, and make a massive impact in doing so.

Sound a little “pig-headed”?  Not in my book. It’s ambition. It’s a dream. It’s a goal. And it’s honesty. And I think you’d agree, there’s nothing wrong with any of those things, is there?

All throughout your life, people will try to hold you back and keep you ordinary. They mostly believe they are doing it for your own good, and very few people even do it consciously.

They will offer opinions, advice and support, which, even when given with the best of intentions, are all tinged with their own beliefs, values and perspective on life.

You’ve heard me say this before – many times – YOU are the only one physically living your life. That means it’s up to you how you want to live it.

YOU get to decide on what size fish you want to be and what size pond you swim in. And once you decide that, you need to jump right in and do whatever swimming stroke you need to, to get where you want to go.

We are blessed with living in a country where most of us we have choices – often great ones! I believe the obligation is therefore on all of us to make a conscious choice of who we want to be and how we want to live. Because when you are happy, fulfilled and loving your life, it has a ripple effect on everyone around you. And, frankly, life is way too short to be miserable J

PS I’m excited to be back in Sydney and I’m getting back into the swing of work. I’m currently taking on clients to start in October/November. If you’d like to talk about career coaching or business development coaching through my Women of Influence program click here to book a time in my diary.