We all have them. Those days when you feel like you don’t want to get out of bed. When you just want to pull the doona over your head and make the world stop.
As a matter of fact, I had one just the other day. It was the first in a while, and if I had allowed it to, it could easily have knocked me for six and thrown out my whole working week.
So how do you get back on track when work/relationships/life feels like it is getting the better of you? Here are some tips to deal with the inevitable stresses and strains of managing a busy career and life. *
Make your choice
No matter what you think, feel or tell yourself, you always have a choice in life. In the case of a day where you want to crawl back under the doona, you absolutely have a choice to make.
Will you allow external circumstances such as: deadlines; a difficult boss; a huge workload; or a challenging relationship to dictate how you live your life on a daily basis?
Or will you stand up, take responsibility for how you feel and do something to change the situation?
The people who have most so-called “success” in life (and I say that because success is a very subjective term) are almost 100% likely to fall into the second category.
Taking responsibility for yourself, your actions and therefore your outcomes is one of the quickest ways I know to get yourself back on track and firing on all cylinders.
Being a victim and blaming everyone and everything else around you for what is going on is a sure-fire way to find yourself having more doona days than you could ever want.
If something isn’t working for you, seek help; advice; assurance; whatever you need to assist you in moving the situation forward. Only YOU can take the responsibility to know when a situation needs to change, and go about making those changes.
See my earlier blog “Whose Life Is It Anyway” on a similar topic.
Ask Yourself Why?
I can almost bet with certainty that the days you don’t want to leave the doona behind are also days when you would have no idea why you are doing what you are doing anymore.
You may have fallen out of love with work (if you ever loved it at all); and no you are questioning your career choice.
This is the time to ask yourself a series of questions, starting with Why?
- Why did I make this choice?
- What did I want to achieve from my career in this area when I started out?
- When did it stop being about what I really wanted to achieve in life?
Then take yourself back to a time when you knew the answers to these questions. Hopefully you can still answer them. If you can’t, take some time out to re-assess your career, role and where you want your career to go from here.
Knowing why we are doing something gives us the strength we need to get through the tough times – it provides a form of sustenance when you most need it. Simon Sinek in his book Start With Why, talks about the fact we can’t lead others and expect them to follow us if we don’t understand why WE are doing something in the first place.
When you know your reason why, those doona days take on less and less meaning.
Shift your body, shift your thinking
Finally – MOVE! It’s been proven that shifting your physiology creates a shift in your brain and therefore in your thinking.
So get out of bed, take a walk around the block, and approach the day from a different angle. It may sound over-simple, but it works, try it!
These are 3 strategies I use to get myself out of a work rut when I need to. I’d love to hear your tips on what you do that works.
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*This article is not intended to be taken as medical or any form of psychological advice. If you are experiencing significant stress or have consistent feelings resembling depression, please see a doctor or contact an organisation such as Beyond Blue http://www.beyondblue.org.au